Do I know you?


Several years – perhaps decades – ago, in a job a whole universe away from what I do now, where I used to work as part of a team of eight, I experienced something strange; and also rather frightening.

This particular day, there were only seven of us on duty, as the eighth person, Sharon Honeysuckle, was on holiday somewhere, doing something that she’d told a couple of the others on the team about. What, where, when and how, I now remember not, and the reason for this lapse in my memory will become very clear indeed.

Another of the team, Dawn Armatrading was explaining Sharon’s reason for having the day off, and it was there that we hit upon the snag.

“Who on Earth is Sharon Honeysuckle?” I asked.

“You know,” said Dawn, taken aback, “Short dark hair, pleasant girl, usually sits opposite you.”

I was puzzled. I knew there was another person on the team who was absent. I knew she was a she. I knew I spoke to her daily. But could I think of her? The team leader, Sharon Greentree, sat opposite me that day, which probably didn’t help, and it was this Sharon that I could only remember. “No…?” I questioned again.

“Brown eyes. Slim. Bought the sari last week.”

“I have no idea who you’re talking about.”

Dawn brought another team member into the conversation, Maxine Gavinson. “Maxine, Tom is saying he doesn’t know Sharon Honeysuckle. Describe her to him…”

Maxine laughed at first, but realised I had no clue as to who Sharon was. “She rides the motorbike,” Maxine offered. “Wears very red lipstick. It was her birthday last week.”

“No. I’m sure she’ll come back to me.”

And with that we got on with our work, although I desperately tried to think of this elusive Sharon Honeysuckle…

What I was experiencing here was a different variant of déjà vu, although kind of the opposite, if you like. Jamais vu is the experience of being unfamiliar with a person or situation that is actually very familiar. This phenomena usually occurs when the brain is tired.

I’m pleased to say that that was the only time I’d ever experienced this, and I apologised to Sharon Honeysuckle profusely the next time I saw her, as I recognised her instantly.

Still, it was quite a frightening experience, I don’t mind admitting.

16 responses to “Do I know you?”

  1. Let's CUT the Crap! avatar

    Wait till you get to my age… o_O 😀 😀

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  2. Diane Henders avatar

    That happened to me once, too. I was working in computer drafting at the time and one of my workmates came over with a roll of plans and asked me about a building. I swore I’d never been in the building even though she pointed out my initials on the drawing. I even went so far as to say that somebody else must have done the drawing and just forgotten to change the initials on the sheet (I had drawn the original blueprint form, so my initials were on everything until somebody changed them).

    But I was wrong. I had not only been in the building; I had done a thorough site measure, down to 1/4″ accuracy, and drawn up all the plans. I remembered as soon as I walked into the lobby.

    Embarrassing…

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      Embarrassing and frightening, Diane. And illogical as well, thinking about it!

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  3. prenin avatar

    Don’t remind me! LoL!!! 🙂

    I have a memory like a bucket with holes in! 🙂

    God Bless my friend!!! 🙂

    Prenin.

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      I’m getting there, Prenin!

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  4. elenacaravela avatar

    A blindspot for Sharons:)

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      It would certainly appear that way, Elena!

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  5. Elaine - I used to be indecisive avatar

    How odd. It sounds much worse than your mind going blank (which happens to me now and then!).

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      I think it’s termed a swiss cheese memory, Elaine… although I could also have made that up!

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      1. Elaine - I used to be indecisive avatar

        I think that sounds a very plausible name – and if it’s not the real one then it should be! 🙂

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  6. colonialist avatar

    I didn’t know one could develop a total memory hole like that – at least it fills up again. What if it didn’t?

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      It does eventually, Col… which is a good thing.

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  7. europasicewolf avatar

    That’s happened to me…somebody got very angry believing not a word of it and instead throwing accusations re utter blatant rudeness and nastiness. ..try telling the hole in my memory that! Maybe it’s caused by the damage we’re doing to the ozone layer. .. 😉

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    1. Tom Merriman avatar

      Yes! The ozone layer! Next time it happens, I’ll blame it on that. If I remember it, that is!

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