You could say that recently I have been receiving signs. I get them every now and then from the Universe. Well, I see them, but not always do I notice them… I recently read a few posts on other blogs that stirred a message within me.
Shree Jacob’s post is here, if you’d like to go and have a read of it, this was the third post I read – I liked it. I liked the others as well, actually…
Kate Shrewsday wrote a post on signs and how we sometimes don’t see them – don’t see the wood for the trees as it were.
Ellie at Emerald Pie recently posted a great video about fifty people in Galway, and their regrets.
Three completely different posts that combined together within me, switched on a light, and made me wake up a little.
I only intended to write a short comment on Shree’s post, as I usually do when commenting, but ended up writing a blog post in itself, so I thought I would do just that, and add an adapted post here as well.
My thoughts on our decisions.
I think that any decision we make at the time isn’t the wrong decision to make, but in making the decision our life ahead will follow a different path, it happens with every decision that we make, so we are constantly changing our own future… all the time… everything is a natural process.
The time we start to wonder if we made the ‘wrong’ decision is after the event.
We can’t go back and make a different decision, so there’s no point thinking that way (which will bring in regrets and a whole host of other negative thoughts and feelings), but we can make a new decision from that point on to steer us to the future that we think we want. Who knows, the future we find ourselves in might not actually be the one we wanted or intended at that point either, but at least we’ll know that we got there by following the path that we set ourselves, the decisions we made on the way.
We are responsible for where we are in our lives, wherever we are. If we aren’t happy, we can change things or stay the same. We can make things better for us, or make them worse. We can blame others for leading us to that particular point, but they made their choices – and we made our decision to follow them, so if we need to blame someone it should only be ourselves. However, blaming doesn’t help, and we need to make a change ourselves if we want something to be different.
All decisions come from within us (even the ones where we think we are being led by others – we still have the final choice to ‘do it or not’…) which means that our decisions are personal to us and really should have no impact on what others think about us – although others may have their opinions on how we should be, and if we do something differently, they ‘feel’ we have let them down because we don’t fit into the model they have made of us.
Nobody should be let down by the decisions another person makes, even if they ‘know’ that the other person has made the wrong decision… decisions are personal property of the decider, and only they can choose if they want to change their mind on something.
Now. I’ve made millions – possibly trillions – of decisions to get to this point in time. I’ve made a handful (OK hundreds) of wrong decisions along the way. Some of these decisions sent my life off in a different direction for a while, but over time I changed. My way of thinking changed. And I’m now where I am.
I could be happier, and I intend to be.
I could be healthier, and I certainly intend to do that.
But for my future… I don’t know. I don’t know where I’ll be in five years time… I don’t know who I’ll know; where I’ll be; or how I’ll be feeling then (apart from happy and healthy!)
I’ve a lot of decisions to make to get there… and I’m going to make them – each and every one – and never look back feeling regretful ever again. I’m going to make sure that I’m on my path, the right path, and enjoy every single step.
Care to join me? But obviously on your own path, of course!
(This post, including this sentence, is made up of 777 words, which, in itself is another sign.)