Flacement: Familiar Faces–Odd Places


I’m always finding myself in some situation where I think that I recognise somebody’s face, and then realise that I don’t.

Sometimes, I actually do recognise the face, but don’t think that it is the person I am thinking it could be, because they are in a place where I don’t expect them to be.

Sometimes, I’m right, and know that I don’t know the person.

Sometimes, I’m right, and know that I know the person.

Sometimes, I’m wrong, and know that I don’t know the person.

And, yes, sometimes, I’m wrong, and know that I know the person, but don’t think it is them as they are in Sainsbury’s when usually I see them in the Co-op. (Other shops are available).

Once, my dentist’s receptionist recognised me in Sainsbury’s. “Hello Mr Aquatom” she announced merrily as she walked by (although she used my real name, but for privacy purposes my alter ego’s name will have to suffice here). I didn’t recognise her, and spent the next hour or so trying (and failing) to work out where I knew her from, and how she knew my name. It was actually during the night, when I woke up for some reason, when I remembered she was the receptionist.

Another time, I met a work colleague at the hospital. Instantly, I knew it was my work colleague… but a few months earlier, I didn’t know who she was at work, even though we worked together on the same team. Eventually, I remembered who she was, and vowed never to forget her again. Which probably helped when I met her at the hospital.

The other day, I was walking down a street when I saw a young lad walking towards me. His face was very familiar, and I was sure I knew him. He started to smile, so I started to smile back. He then shouted to someone behind me, and I realised that I didn’t know him at all. I walked passed him with a huge smile on my face, pretending that I had thought of something funny. I don’t think he realised what I had done…

Several years ago, I went to a motor bike racing circuit, to watch a few races, funnily enough. I went with a few friends, and we were walking around the stalls where they were selling all the manly tools and leathers and bike parts and things. The guy who was serving on this particular stall looked at me as though he recognised me – and I recognised him as well. He actually said that he knew me, but didn’t know where from. I said the same to him, but neither of us had been to each other’s home town, and the racing circuit is something I don’t do very often. Unfortunately, we never did find out how we knew each other; although we probably didn’t in this lifetime. That was a strange feeling, that one!

I’m now starting to recognise some of the doctors and nurses at the hospital, when I see them at the hospital. If I saw them in Sainsbury’s, I’d probably know that I knew them, but not know where from.

So, the reason for this post.

Another new word for my dictionary:

    • Flacement
      The recognition of a familiar face in unfamiliar surroundings.
      The knowledge that you know that you don’t know the person that you think that you know, but you still think that you might know them from somewhere, but don’t.

15 responses to “Flacement: Familiar Faces–Odd Places”

  1. kateshrewsday avatar

    I have that a lot. The most unsettling flacement occurs when you know you have never met them before and yet they are familiar. I shall think of this post next time that happens…

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      It’s a very frequent event by all accounts, Kate… but every time is always random!

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  2. Androgoth avatar
    Androgoth

    You know this is very common my wicked friend and it happens to me too, it is really bizarre how one associates a person with one environment only to be confused when that person is seen in a different place, a neighbour, well a woman across the road and a few houses away actually works in one of the local supermarkets, but even though I recognised her and she seemed to know me, I still didn’t really click that it was her at all, I mean the Flacement was there but I wasn’t sure if it was her or not even though she is her absolute double, well even now I am still unsure and I have been in that supermarket several times over the past few weeks or so, of course like yourself I don’t normally shop there so seeing her just didn’t compute if not for a better word…

    That is your Flacement again isn’t it Aquatom? 🙂 She always looks at me and seems to acknowledge me too but never mentions anything outside of the box so to speak and so I keep on wondering if it is her or just a woman that looks like her so how nuts is that? 🙂 lol A very good posting this one and I think that this happens to many of us as we make our way through the world. I like the story about the bike racing circuit though, as that is a different encounter all together… Have a great rest of evening now Aquatom 🙂

    Androgoth

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      That’s it indeed, Andro, It’s very odd when you aren’t sure whether you know somebody or not… 🙂

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  3. Androgoth avatar
    Androgoth

    Well even in this earlier comments I have said
    that she actually works in the supermarket, when
    really I still don’t know if it is her or not 🙂 lol

    Androgoth

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      I can see the time when you are convinced that it is the person that you think it is, only for you to see the two of them talking together… 🙂

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      1. Androgoth avatar
        Androgoth

        Yes maybe identical twins 🙂 lol

        Androgoth

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  4. penpusherpen avatar

    Flacement works for me Sir Aquatom, …(loving the list that spellchecker is so keen to have it change too.. fla-cement is the one which cracked me up… 😀 ) …. anywho, (another red line, anyhow, any-who anywhere, ooh I just love messing about) … sorry this comment is just wavering from the main subject… I have seen peeps who look like someone I know, so well that I have blanks where there should be name tags even if they stood together I’d probably pick the wrong-un, and then smile inanely whilst hurriedly ordering my brain to come up with something. anything, before it was too late.. BUT Brian the Brain is a lazy s.o.b, and never responds well to up-to-the-minute orders. Suggestions are thrown willy nilly about and finally the face is held in rigor-mortise through holding a grimace (smile) for what seems like hours.. and is only a few nerve crunching minutes. Why can’t we just ‘fess up and say .. ‘I’m so sorry” self depreciating smile “I know the face, do you know mine?.. NO? Sorry to have bothered you.’ (‘cos it’s their fault anywho for being in the wrong place!!!… so there!! ) xPenx

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      You are absolutely right, Pen, only people who we know we know should be in the places where we go… that just reminded me of a song… and yes, it would be so much easier if we could ask if it is who we think it is… I don’t think we do, though, just in case we are asking someone who we know really well if we know them… :/

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  5. Diane Henders avatar

    How nice to finally have a word for what happens to me so frequently! When I used to ride the train to work, I’d be riding with the same people most of the time. Then I’d meet them somewhere downtown, and the face was as familiar as could be, but I’d spend the rest of my day racking my brain for their name (which I never knew in the first place).

    I’ve always wondered why I don’t just tell people flat out, “You look really familiar, but I’m sorry I don’t remember your name.” I wouldn’t be offended if someone said that to me, so why do I assume that they’d be offended? An honest apology has to be better than a blank stare, furrowed brow, and surreptitious scuttle around the corner to avoid meeting… isn’t it? 🙂

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      Most definitely, Diane, but as I just said to Pen above I would feel very awkward if I was asking someone who I knew really well if I knew them. They’d probably just think I’m simply being me (dizzy) and say no more on the matter, but I’d be cringing inside for months to come. I wouldn’t mind anyone asking me, though. If nothing else it helps to break the ice…

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  6. jennygoth avatar
    jennygoth

    if someone recognizes me but i dont them i just say so now nothing to loose by telling them lol i get noticed by old school friends i havent seen for years but i dont know most of them i just say is it whoever and hope ive got it right the strangest thing which has happened to me is i asked a girl i was babysitting at the time about her worst nightmare and she said word for word the nightmare id had it was a really frightening feeling i think lots of strange things happen in our lifetime aqua xxjen

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      They do indeed, Jen. Sharing a nightmare is something I haven’t experienced yet, but I wouldn’t mind experiencing that, being honest.

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  7. Diane Henders avatar

    Hi again! I just wanted to let you know that I’ve nominated your blog for the “Versatile Blogger” award.

    The explanation is here: http://wp.me/p1qrBV-a3. Feel free to ignore the rules as you see fit. I may joke about the award itself, but I hope you’ll accept the sincere compliment behind it.

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    1. Tom (Aquatom1968) avatar

      Well, thank you very much, Diane. I’m flattered that you’ve nominated me, I really am! 😀

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