Money or friends

Here’s a question that keeps popping up in my mind from time to time. What would I prefer to have more of – money or friends?

The answer isn’t as easy as it first seems.

I have some friends, not many, so at first thought more friends would be the obvious one to go for. But hang on… if I have more friends, I will need to be doing more things with them, so, more than likely more money is to be needed to enable me to do those things.

Going back to my friends, I don’t see many of them nowadays, so adding more friends may mean that I’ll just get to know more people who I won’t see, in which case more money isn’t needed.

More money would be needed if I started taking myself off to places where I could meet more people, in which case I would get to know more people and see more people all at the same time. But I’d need to have more money to start off with to do that.

But then again, would the people I meet be interested in me, or my money? I’d rather know people who like me for me, not for what I have (or haven’t got), so money isn’t needed here.

In fact, I’d just like to get to know nice people just for being them. If they are nice, interesting and easy to get along with, and take me for who I am, don’t try to change me or judge me, yes, I’d like to meet people like that. I think I’m too easy going with people, and they tend to take me the wrong way. Well, that’s what I think anyway – but that also means I am pre-judging everyone to be the same, and how can I expect to meet anyone who won’t judge me when that is what I am doing to them in the first place?

My thoughts have now shifted to money again. If I had more than enough money, I could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to. I don’t need anyone there. But things may get a bit boring. What’s the point of having loads of money if I’ve no-one to enjoy it with?

So, I need more friends to help me to enjoy myself. But enjoyment comes from within, so I don’t actually need them to help me to enjoy myself, but I’d like to have them around. And that now sounds as though I want to use them, which is certainly not the case at all. I’d like them to have fun too – it’s not all about me (although this blog is…)

I think I’ve reached my answer after all of my self-debating above. I’d like to meet more people, who I get on well with, and they get on well with me. I don’t want them all to be the same type of personality because everyone is different and we are all free to be individuals. I’d like to know people who (like the friends I have now) continue just where we left off, even though we may not have seen each other for a couple of months.

I’d also like to have the ability to be able to do more things with more people, so, short of winning the lottery, I’d better start to do something that will help me to bring a few more pennies in so I can try to do something with this aim.

I’ve not reached the answer at all. I’m no further along than when I started typing this. The truth is, I wouldn’t mind more of both. But, I’m also happy as I am at present, which is a good thing until both come along.

I’m not going to wait for both though – I’m going to make sure that I continue to enjoy myself right now, and also enjoy what comes along sometime in the future. Well, I can’t have life passing me by whilst I’m waiting, can I?