Control Your Destiny

Is it easy to control your own destiny? How difficult is it to decide what you want, and go for it? What blocks would there be to stop anyone from achieving the life they have always dreamed about? Is it selfish to want to succeed? What would be your ultimate goal?

To some, their success seems to come easy. They have an inspirational idea and go with it. Or they appear on Big Brother and then become a successful TV presenter. Or they become so good at what they do, they earn promotion after promotion. They know what they want, and go for it.

Others just watch these people making a success of their lives, and rather than being happy for them, they are resentful and jealous. They call them for their success. They look for the tiniest flaw, and make it seem the worst thing to happen since time began. They are so wrapped up in trying to find fault in other people’s lives, they forget about their own.

And there are others, who know what they want, go for it, get it, lose it, get something else, lose that and keep repeating this cycle over and over again. But they never give up, and keep trying.

And there’s another type. Those who can’t be bothered. Those who aren’t jealous of other folk’s successes, but tend to drift through their life aimlessly and without reason, except to get through each day.

And another type – the idle dreamer. Those who have ideas about how things would be better with ‘this’, or have grand ideas for a fantastic future, but do absolutely nothing to help themselves achieve their goal.

Whatever type of person someone is, each and every one of us has control of our own destiny. Well, that’s what I think, anyway. We can decide if we want to be happy, if we want to complain, if we want to keep trying, if we want  to put ourselves out a little, if we want to make our daydreams reality. Nobody can make us think any differently about anything, apart from ourselves.

So, if we want to be successful, what is stopping us? It’s not the red traffic light. Or the lack of ideas. Or someone who doesn’t like us and wants us to fail. Or the boss holding us back. Or the kids holding us back. Or the husband / wife holding us back. Or the dog holding us back. Or the weather. Or the distance. Or the colour. It’s not even how clever we are… or think we are. It is our own limiting thoughts that stop us.

We help or hinder our own future. Therefore, we control our own destiny. Or not. Either way, we’re making the decisions. Ooh, a paradox.

One of my favourite quotes is “If there is no light at the end of the tunnel, march down there and switch it on yourself!” 🙂