I’m feelin’ good!

I’m feeling pretty good with myself today.

No, that’s not true. I’m feeling fantastically good with myself today! Yes, things could be better – they always can – but what I have to feel good about right now is why I’m feeling good! This isn’t a cryptic post that goes round in circles and just says the same thing… although that is actually what it says. I. Feel. Good.

I feel good just saying I feel good.

And here’s a question… do we need a reason to feel good? Can we feel good just for the sake of feeling good, or do we have to do something, have something or be something first, in order to feel good?

Think about this. The most miserable, unhappy, ungrateful person you have ever met receives a cheque for a million pounds. Will that cheque change them overnight into the most cheerful, happiest and thankful person ever? I think probably not. The reason why I think this is because at their very core they are happy in being miserable, unhappy and ungrateful. Some people may change slightly for the better, but they will not be happy if they didn’t have something to be unhappy about. Some people may even change for the worse, and become more miserable, more unhappy and more ungrateful (if that’s possible).

Here’s another example. A happy chappy who springs out of bed in a morning, is always smiling, and thoroughly enjoys whatever it is he is doing receives a cheque for a million pounds. Will this person change any for receiving the cheque? I think probably not. The reason why I think this is because at his core, this chap is happy anyway. This is just another bonus to help him to continue to be happy. Some people may become even happier, and others may become less carefree with the money, but they will still be happy.

These feel good feelings come from within. It doesn’t matter what it is that you are doing, as long as you are feeling good doing it. There is no point doing something that you don’t feel good about is there? If a friend wants to do something that you don’t want to do, but you do it anyway, you can start off not feeling good as you are doing something that you do not want to do. You may find that you begin to enjoy doing what you are doing, and so your good feelings will return, but if not you will eventually stop doing whatever it is.

It’s all about how you feel. If you do everything for everyone and don’t enjoy doing it, you can start to resent doing it. Then, the people who you are doing the things for will start to pick up the vibes that you are not happy and before long you can all end up in a very awkward situation. Just concentrate on the things that make you feel good, and you’ll find that more things that make you feel good will come to you. It works the other way too, but I’m not writing about that here. Positivity only please!

If you just concentrate on what it is that you feel good about, people will notice. They’ll ask questions like ‘how can you be so positive?’, or ‘how can you be so happy?’, or ‘what do you do that’s different?’. Pat yourself on the back whenever you are asked questions like these, because they’re your proof (as if you actually really need it) from your outside world that you are doing things right!

If you aren’t asked questions, by the way, it doesn’t matter… the people around you just haven’t noticed. It isn’t their fault – obviously they are living their lives just as you are, but they aren’t noticing all of the goodness that is all around them. One day they will. And take note if you find yourself thinking that someone you know is always happy or positive. Remember, you bring things into your life that match how you are feeling, so although you may not be feeling one hundred per cent positive when you first think ‘what does she do that’s different to me…?’ there’s a reason for the thought to be there.

Go ahead. Feel good. You can’t lose by trying. Feeling good part of the time is hundreds of times better than not feeling good any of the time. The more you practice, the better it gets. The easier it gets. The more contagious it gets. The more you want it. To a point where you feel good all of the time it doesn’t matter. Then you really will be feeling good!

So, I’m feeling good. I still have areas of my life that I would like to be better, so I’m not at the stage where I feel good all of the time, but I feel I am at the stage where I can consciously make myself feel good when I’m not (if that makes sense…). So, if I’m feeling one hundred per cent good a third of the time, and I can consciously make myself feel good another third of the time, that leaves me with one third unaccounted for. I think this must be when I’m feeling good when I’m asleep – having a good night’s sleep so I can feel good the next day! And not being awake – or aware – of the goodness that is around me when I can’t consciously make myself feel good.

I’m not perfect. I’ve still got work to do. But I am going to enjoy doing it! And why not? I do like feeling good, after all…